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My Journey of Motherhood Isn't What I Expected When I Booked My Ticket...

Getting lost, finding my way and the journey of tricky switchbacks...

The thing I love (and sometimes hate) most about motherhood is unpredictability. You may think you're headed to a school play or a dentist appointment but then you end up finding something you didn't know you were missing. And it never ceases to astound much mystery is involved in becoming a parent.

Parenting storiesParenting storiesI began motherhood, rocking my firstborn through the quiet, still hours of the night. While the rest of the world slept, we swayed under the watchful eye of the moon, two pieces of a puzzle, joined yet so painfully seperate. My fingers traced the soft red whorls of hair, the line where his jaw met impossibly small ears, the pucker of his soft lips. I stockpiled and recorded those moments until they became my roadmap for life...

It wasn't long before our baby became a tempestuous ball of energy and overtook our lives like a flood that ends a drought. One day, after a harrowing battle of wits, he warned me to behave or he'd let his "good mommy" come out of the closet and take my place. At the time I bit my lip to keep from laughing, but I've often wondered why the good mommy lived in the closet.

One of my children clung to me like a security blanket, curling herself into my arms and resting her ear on my chest. It was as if the world was too large and confusing for her to digest, but she understood the steady rhythm of my heart. She looked steadfastly into my eyes and waited patiently for me to translate. Everything.

All too soon, I became a witness rather than tour guide.

Like all parents, we traded skinned knees for brand-nameParenting Adventures everything and watched our children land one by one in the land of not-believing. The place where whispered secrets at the end of the day were the only safe place for hugs around gangly adolescent shoulders. I was still a confidant and guiding light but also the lucky recipient of countless icy glares, slammed doors and words thrown like grenades.

My oldest son is now a grown man with a wife and daughter. Some days I feel like we've come to the end of our journey together and other days I'm amazed at how much joy there is for us now that we're both adults. But stil, it's difficult to believe the clothing I once folded for him was doll-sized. Wasn't it just last week ago that a tiny sand dollar filled his entire hand?

Parenting AdventuresThat grown-up, man's hand curled around that woman's, wasn't it just tucked into mine as we crossed the street?

Some days I pull out those old roadmaps I packed away so long ago. Each child's is different and beautiful and our compass pointing home when we've lost our way. They're dog-eared and creased, but I recognize the landmarks so well I can recite them from memory. Then I see a new turn-off or an unexpected vantage point that changes everything. And it makes me wonder if this new landmark has been there all along and how did we miss it? 

When I was slogging through continual rounds of diaper changes and 2 am feedings, an endless supply of puddle-jumping and playing-hopscotch days stretched out like a wide open highway. But suddenly we reached the end and now I stand here alone looking back. Where did all those days go? We should have seen it coming - this growing up. After all, we did the same thing to our parents.

Why did I blink? 

I still use my roadmaps, but I'm learning to drive blind too in this new world of ours. Sometimes getting lost can takes us to places we never considered visiting. But there's one truth that hasn't changed, even though my children are grown with lives of their own. They are still the people I'd happily get lost with - any day. They teach me (and now their partners too) that the great thing about getting lost, is finding your way home again.

Whether your maps are new or dog-eared like mine,Surprise DestinationsSurprise Destinations some of the most important adventures you and your child will take together are those unplanned, spontaneous trips that land you in a cabin in Vermont instead of on the beach in Florida. After all, what you do while you're there is more important than the scenery.

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Moms have special gifts. Thanks for sharing yours in these beautiful words. Can't wait for a guest post from the "good" Mommy. :-)

What a glorious story! I so enjoyed travelling down memory lane with you Julia. Excellent writing!

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